Obligation makes me feel nauseous. Like, properly sick. And yet here we are, so many of us, trudging through our relationships doing things we don't want to do because we think we should.

I love thinking. It is one of my favourite things to do! Taking a concept and thinking about it from above, below, from the left and the right can entertain my head for hours. 

Taking responsibility for your life is the secret to living the best possible life. It requires us to actively take charge of our own lives and well-being, rather than expecting others to solve our problems or make decisions on our behalf.

How are you an accomplice in your own undoing? 

Allow me to introduce you to a family I have spent a lot of time with. The Selfs. The Selfs have six children. Three sons, Doubt, Worth and Belief and three daughters, Aware, Care & Respect.

I'm turning 55.

I love the number 5 and a double five is very very exciting. I love birthdays and celebrating in general. Celebrating and being celebrated are important energies. Allowing yourself to be celebrated can be tough. It can be weird accepting attention and effort! 

If I had one wish for the world, it would be for every person to have the safety and the courage to be fully self-expressed. 

Last year, my eldest daughter held her first art exhibition. It was brave, beautiful and very clever.

It was open to the public and I heard one guy say out loud, ‘I could have done that’ while looking at one of the canvases. It took me all my time not to say something to him.

I actually think it's the most important investment in the world. Not the fluffy, online pretend stuff - I’m talking about the real deal. 

It's no secret that the world is a weird place right now. 

I was talking to a friend on the weekend about trust. How hard it is to trust the world and lots of the stuff in it.

Realising that perfectionism was rooted deeply in fear was a moment that changed my life. I was reading Liz Gilbert's book Big Magic and this quote forever changed how I looked at my need to be perfect.

The world seems a little bit hard right now for so many people. I have met people over the past three weeks navigating big stuff, hard times, and enormous challenges. 

Last weekend, I ran my Repotted Retreat. Twenty-six wonderful women turned up and dug down into what they wanted. They were honest about what they needed and where they were at. They left nourished and ready for the next chapter of their lives!

I spent the first 40 years of my life identifying as a good girl. I am a clever, eldest daughter, who took the role of being impressive very seriously!

What would your life look like without guilt, duty, or fear?

Imagine how you would live!

I've spent decades observing people who thrive and those who struggle.

The difference isn't luck, talent, or circumstances. It's how they show up and play the game of life!

Are you hard to help? I am! I am clever, capable, and with high standards, which means I can do most things and often take on a lot!

Happy Mother's Day to everyone doing the Mothering!  

Becoming a mother has taught me so much. Mostly about myself! 

How strong I am, how resilient and quick-thinking I can be, how soft and squidgy I am and how much love I have for so many.

Imagine if your life were all about you…

If you allowed yourself to indulge in your ‘you-ness’…
How would you live?
Where would you live?
What would you wear?
What would you spend your time doing?

I hope you are feeling rested after the Easter break. I had a wonderful few days resting, eating, creating and blobbing out with my family, doing pretty much fuck-all!  

Rest is something I am now really good at. It wasn't always this way! I have always been a high-energy, get-it-done kind of human. For most of my life, I dismissed rest as something for "other people". I even judged "resters" as lazy!

Divine Self-Expression is my life goal. 

The simple explanation of this is expressing yourself in a way that aligns with your spiritual essence or soul self. It’s the result of being curious and connected to who you really are - who you were before the world told you who to be.