Contributors and Contaminators
Being at your best is often a result of the people that you spend time with. I had three days last week hanging out with a group of people that feel like home. A group of people who challenge me, who light me up and add enormously to my energy.
One of the most wonderful experiences we have as humans is finding a tribe that we vibe with.
All of us have an energy vibe, like a personal wifi signal that others pick up on. Hopefully, we all have people in our lives who contribute positively to our energy. They improve our mood and make us feel better.
And then there are the ones who are contaminating. These people muddy your waters and make you feel yuck. Your vibration drops by merely being in their presence. A person who puts you down, belittles you or who does not have your best interests at heart is not a friend. They are an energy robber. They ring you up, talk about themselves, whinge, whine and moan and then hang up the phone. You are left feeling like a deflated balloon with one less hour in your day!
Kick these people to the kerb. You deserve better.
You will find that every single person in your life, whether your children, colleagues, partner, friends, or family, are either contributing or contaminating.
If they are contributing, it means that you feel great when you are with them. You feel better and enjoy their company. They add value, either by being useful, kind, supportive, or just fun.
If they are contaminating your life, it means that you feel shitty after you've been with them. Perhaps you don't enjoy being with them, and you feel contracted and obliged when they are around. An easy way to know is that your bum will go tight!
Think about who's contributing to your life and who's contaminating it.
I've got four children, and within a day, at any time, one or more of them can be contributing or contaminating. They can go from one to the other very quickly – especially teenagers! They are not aware of the enormous amount of energy that they have and are often at odds with who they are being. This causes all kinds of moods and odd behaviour.
My pets contribute to my life because they make me feel happy. I have two beautiful cats who make me feel good just by being around. They don’t do much, but I always enjoy being in their presence. Six years ago, we got a dog. Or rather I should say I got my son a dog. I had planned to teach Felix about responsibility and discipline. Instead, what we got was a whole lot of love.
If you value someone in your life, think about how you can honour them by making sure that you are contributing back. How do you say, ‘Thank you for making a difference in my life, thank you!”
Years ago, I heard spiritual author, Neale Donald Walsch speak live. He said, “I want you to go home and thank your family & friends.” Say 'Thank you for witnessing my life.'’
Thousands of people go through their days with no one to notice them. It's really affirming to have someone who recognises that you're in a bad mood, or that you haven't had a good day. Someone who knows that you just got promoted and that something has gone right. Even someone to see that you just bought new shoes.
‘Thank you for witnessing my life.’