I have a wonderful friend called Rosie who I met a few weeks after she moved to NZ from Korea. Her English was very limited and we had hilarious conversations and a few games of charades to communicate when we first met.
We were talking about our families and she asked me, “In your house, are you plenty power?” I asked her what she meant. Rosie said, "In my house, I am in charge. I am powerful woman. I am plenty power.” "Oh yes," I said - "I am plenty power too!"
Read MoreNone of us were created to do life on our own. As humans, we were designed to support each other. We are social beings who need others to enhance our lives. The interesting thing about modern living is that we have become unhelpfully independent. We have become crazy, capable, stressed-out little islands who have lost the ability to ask for help or even notice when help is required!
Read MoreIn 2018, I wrote a book called “Juggling in High Heels”. It was about managing chaos. It was written for women who wanted to have it all. I have always believed that women can have, do and be whatever they want. I do believe that women can have ‘it all’ but I am wise enough to know that we cannot have it all at the same time.
Read MoreLearning to like the person that we are, I believe, is some of the most important work that we can do in our lives. There is no doubt that we are stuck with ourselves. The relationship that we have with ourselves is without a doubt the most powerful one.
We cannot get away! There is a lot to learn and a lot to understand. We need to make peace with our bodies, we need to understand our minds and we need to connect with our souls.
You and your body are in an arranged marriage. It's time to commit to what your body needs and wants to make your life work. Rolling around in a body you hate, one that isn’t fit for purpose is not a wonderful way to live.
Read MoreI had a huge response to my blog on Tuesday about exhausted providers.
There are a lot of people starting 2024 with a hangover from 2023. They might have ‘been away’ but they are still exhausted.
They are tired. Tired of trying. Tired of being disappointed. Tired of feeling misunderstood.
Not physically tired but they are ‘soul tired’. They are depleted from doing everything for everyone else and nothing that lights them up.
You might think you are stuck. That you are unmotivated. After being in survival for so long most of us are depleted.
And the answer is selfishness! It’s time to be selfish. It’s time to stop self-sacrificing.
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Exhausted providers are capable. Good at what they do. They are able to solve problems, sort shit out, they constantly come up with solutions.
They are committed. They are wonderful parents, workers, bosses and friends. They do what they say they are going to. They don’t like letting people down.
Read MoreI have spent the past 6 weeks locked away writing a new book!
It's a book about Energy. It is 25 years of learning. It’s about awareness, understanding and action.
Read MoreOne of my favourite things to do in the new year is to write down all the things that I am looking forward to. My Purpose Planner has a “year at a glance” section where you can see all 12 months over two pages.
Each month has a box so you can write in the big things that you have on that month. It might be family occasions, events you are attending, or trips you have planned.
Having something to look forward to is a wonderful way to energise yourself and create excitement. The feeling of having nothing to look forward to has an enormous impact on your energy levels.
Read MoreLast year, I sold out of my book "Everything You Want". It is now back in stock and I spent the holidays reading it!
Reading your own book is a weird experience. It feels weirdly familiar but distant at the same time. It takes me back to my thinking at the time of writing.
Everything You Want was written to help people to get what they want. The two biggest blocks for getting what you want are believing that you can have what you want and then knowing what to do to get it!
Read MoreA friend messaged me today. She was asking me about burnout and crashing and the balance of being under and overstimulated.
Read MoreWhat do you want in 2024?
What do you want to have, do, and be?
People often cannot answer this seemingly simple question. They cannot answer because they feel stuck. You are not stuck, you are not lazy. After years of survival mode, you are exhausted.
Read MoreIt is possible that Boxing Day is my favourite day of the year. Not just this year but every year!
I deliberately do nothing on Boxing Day. I have never been to a Boxing Day Sale. The thought of queues with people fighting over sale goods after the busyness of December leaves me cold.
I make Boxing Day all about me!
Read MoreIt is an interesting time of year and I have noticed people being grumpy and fatigued. I started thinking about why we all bother!
31.6% of the world identify as Christian and while I realise that nowhere near 100% of the world celebrates Christmas, there is a huge percentage of us who are ‘doing Christmas’ without buying into the ‘reason for the season’!
Read MoreThis is a wonderful time of the year to celebrate yourself! Self Celebration is about celebrating, acknowledging, and accepting yourself right now.
Read MoreChristmas is supposed to be a magical time of the year. There is always a lot to do, the build-up to it is often exhausting. The shopping, the wrapping, the thinking, the cooking, and the anticipation of visitors and events can be a lot.
Read MoreMoney is a shitty thing for a lot of people.
And this is the time of year when it gets really stressful! Finding cash to buy gifts and food and holidays can be tough.
I think that two of the best gifts to give at Christmas are generosity & honesty. If you have money, be generous. If you don’t have any money, be honest!
Read MoreWe are at the pointy end of the year. The 2023 garage door is coming down and we all have a few things to sort before the end of the month.
We all want to whip through our to do lists but before you start, let’s check your beliefs.
Read MoreWhat are the rules of YOU?
I am not a fan of rules normally but over the years I have written a “manifesto of me”. This document states my rules and my preferences.
This time of year is the perfect time to declare some of your rules! Going into the ‘silly season’ with some boundaries is a great idea. You are about to be pushed, coerced, judged and shoved into all kinds of situations and a lot of the people you manage to avoid for the rest of the year!!
Read More2023 is nearly done. At the end of November each year I like to start my closing ceremony. Closing down the year. Part of my annual closing ceremony is to do a review. Review the good, the bad and the ugly! I like to do an annual people audit. Who have been your best people this year? Who has supported you, helped you and honoured you? Who are the people who have been there for you? Your best friends, clients, advisers, mentors and supporters? These people contribute to your life, your cause, your energy.
Read MoreLast week I was away at retreating. I spent three days with 16 fabulous women. Three days “Repotting” humans. A process where we get clarity, support, space and inspiration. A space where you get to design how you want to be and what you want in your world.
We sat in circles. We laughed, we talked and most importantly we gave each other "a good listening to"!
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