Energy Leaks in Conversations
Some conversations drain you before they even begin!
You know the feeling when your phone rings, you see who's calling, and your energy immediately drops. Or someone approaches you with "that look" on their face, and you can feel your vitality starting to seep away before they've even opened their mouth.
Not all conversations are created equal when it comes to energy exchange. Some leave you feeling inspired and connected, while others feel like having your energy siphoned through a straw.
The tricky part is that we're often unconscious about which conversations energise us and which ones deplete us. We just show up and hope for the best, then wonder why we feel exhausted after certain interactions.
Here's how to become more intentional about conversational energy:
Recognise the energy vampires. These are conversations that go nowhere, repeat the same complaints endlessly, or involve people who dump their problems without any genuine interest in solutions. You leave feeling heavier than when you arrived.
Set conversation boundaries. You can love someone deeply while still protecting your energy from their conversational patterns. "I can listen for 10 minutes, then I need to go" is a perfectly valid boundary.
Redirect energy-draining patterns. When someone launches into their third retelling of the same complaint, try: "That sounds really challenging. What are you thinking of doing about it?" This shifts the conversation from venting to problem-solving.
Seek out energy-giving conversations. These are discussions that expand your thinking, make you laugh, inspire new ideas, or deepen connection. Actively pursue people who engage in these types of exchanges.
Prepare your energy field. Before difficult conversations, take a moment to centre yourself. Visualise yourself surrounded by protective light, and set the intention to stay grounded in your own energy rather than absorbing theirs.
The people who have the most sustainable energy are highly selective about their conversational diet. They understand that every interaction is an energy exchange, and they choose their exchanges wisely.
This doesn't mean being cold or uncaring. It means being strategic about when, where, and how you engage in different types of conversations.
You have permission to end conversations that are draining your life force. Your energy is precious, and protecting it isn't selfish - it's necessary for your well-being and your ability to show up fully for what matters most.
Which conversations in your life consistently drain your energy? How might you approach them differently this week?
ENERGY CLUB UPDATES:
If you're interested in how conversations can transform your energy, check out last week's podcast on Energetic Body. Sometimes, simply talking openly about your energetic body makes a big difference.