Why Nobody Cares About Your Perfect Life
Realising that perfectionism was rooted deeply in fear was a moment that changed my life. I was reading Liz Gilbert's book Big Magic and this quote forever changed how I looked at my need to be perfect.
"I think perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat, pretending to be elegant when actually it's just terrified. Because underneath that shiny veneer, perfectionism is nothing more than a deep existential angst that says, again and again, 'I am not good enough and I will never be good enough.'"
I was exhausted from trying. Exhausted from pretending. Exhausted living a life that had to line up with impossible standards! Standards that I had set for myself!
I often joke that because I have a big arse it's okay to do things half arsed! I have noticed that when you have high standards, 80% of what you think is okay will be fine. Giving yourself permission just to rip straight in and do something is refreshing. Rather than waiting for the perfect time. The perfect conditions or the perfect opportunity try jumping in with half your arse!
In Sheryl Sandberg's incredible book Lean In she wrote "Done is better than perfect." I have tried to embrace this motto and let go of unattainable standards. Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst.
Perfectionism convinces us that nothing will be good enough, you never actually do anything. You get paralysed from inaction. You worry, 'What if it's not perfect? Maybe I can't send that text, maybe I can't post that photo, maybe I can't make that phone call, maybe I can't apply for the job yet. You know, I'm waiting to be perfect, and then I'll apply for that job. I'm waiting to lose weight, and then I'll be happy. I'm waiting, waiting, waiting.'
We're always waiting on something to be perfect. I don't think there's time to be perfect, there's just time to be.
I know a woman who took three years to launch her business because she couldn't get her website to be just right. I told her 'No one cares.' And they don't.
No one cares as much as you do. And once you get over that, it's phenomenal how quickly you can move on. The truth is that no one is that interested in you! The world is full of people hustling and grafting and thinking about themselves!
In today's social media culture, so many people are obsessed with the theory that everyone is looking at them, watching and critiquing their every move. There is definitely an increase in the attention people pay to each other's lives, but I still don't believe that people are as interested as we think!
What are you holding back from taking action on because you reckon you've got to be perfect at it?
In which areas are you waiting to be perfect before you can take action? Before you can make your life better or before you can do something special that you've been longing for?
Maybe it's having that difficult conversation, starting that fitness routine, pursuing that creative project, or finally booking that trip you've been dreaming about. Maybe it's putting yourself out there socially, applying for that opportunity, or simply showing up as your authentic self instead of the polished version you think people want to see.
My theory is that half-arsed is better than no-arse. So I would rather jump in and get something done.
The world responds to action. Not perfect action. Just action.
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