Soft and Hard
The world seems a little bit hard right now for so many people. I have met people over the past three weeks navigating big stuff, hard times, and enormous challenges.
How do you stay light when life is heavy? is a question I have asked often.
I love this question. Without sounding like a fucking annoying positivity freak. I love the idea that while you cannot control what happens to you, you can handle how you respond. Regardless of what is happening in your life, you get to control how you handle it.
I handle hard by adding soft. I treat myself with extreme care. I treat myself full stop! My survival clothing is more likely to be cashmere than camouflage!!
Surrounding myself with comfort and abundance and treating myself with ease and softness are survival techniques.
I call these ‘pockets of perfect’. Little pockets that you can pop into your day when your world feels far from perfect. A pocket might be a cup of tea in the sun. It might be wearing something beautiful or drinking from a beautiful glass. It's about lacing your day with little treats!
Our normal response when life gets hard is to minimise and manage. To stop living. To stop giving and caring and creating softness and space. I think that living generously at these times is essential.
Last week, I had 28 incredible women who attended my repotted retreat. Brave, honest women who were committed to change. Some wanted to change the way that they live, some wanted to change how they feel, all wanted something new. Many were done with being in charge, being responsible and “battling”.
Battling life is a mindset. We buy into the tough, we talk non stop about what’s hard and we cling to our old stories and problems.
L’Wren Scott said that “Luxury is a state of mind.”
When I think of these words, I take them as meaning that when you pull yourself from anticipating the potential wrongs of the future and free yourself from the regrets of the past, you can live in the luxurious moment.
We can’t control our environment all the time, but we can control how we feel in it. That for me is luxury. Its writing with your favourite pen, using a beautiful hand cream.
Being soft when things are hard is a wonderful way to live through tough times. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It's about using your best plates, wearing your favourite clothes. It is about creating a condition of ease and comfort.
Try adding some soft to your hard.
If you are interested in attending Repotted this year, we have just released our dates for December 2nd to 4th. Join me!
