Redesigning Your Life
Imagine if your life were all about you…
If you allowed yourself to indulge in your ‘you-ness’…
How would you live?
Where would you live?
What would you wear?
What would you spend your time doing?
All humans need connection. We need each other and are programmed to connect, but early on, we become victims of social programming. We change the shape of our being to become something palatable. We alter ourselves to belong.
Brené Brown says that fitting in is the opposite of belonging.
“Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be
to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.”
Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
In an attempt to fit in, we alter ourselves to merge with others. We then compromise ourselves to please others… slowly eroding our essence of self.
It’s very easy to wake up and realise that you have lost your way. That you are no longer yourself!
It’s easy to become a collection of things that serve. Gathering a whole lot of thinking, doing, and being that is miles away from the self that is in your heart.
Middle age is a wonderful time to regroup, reassess, and examine where life is taking you. It’s an excellent time to review life. What suits you and what serves you?
Who are you serving? What machine have you become a cog in?
In all the everyday doing, it’s easy to live on automatic pilot. Doing what needs to be done to feed, provide and look after everyone around you.
But what about you???
What do you want?
What is your soul pushing you to notice?
What needs to change?
In my experience, middle-aged people do one of two things. They rage against the light - they push, they shift, some blow up their lives. Others sink down the slide under a cloth of defeat. They give up. They settle. They believe it’s too hard or that they don’t have what it takes to make change.
There is a third way. A meeting with yourself. A life restructure. A game where mentally, you remove everything and only put back the pieces, the roles, and the people that are growing you forward. It’s an audit. It’s a review. It’s a considered plan to move forward…
The first 50 years of life feel like a race. Get the job, get the guy, get the house, get the ring, get the baby, get the business, get the life you have been told you need…
And then we think we are running out of time. The second half of our lives is much more spacious. It has more room. You don’t need to educate yourself, get on a property ladder, start a family or build a business - you can, of course, do all these things, but for many, they are already done.
You have space to move into yourself. To redesign the masterpiece of your life!!!!
(I have a few spots available for my Repotted Retreat - 3 days designed to redesign your life in a stunning location in the beautiful Coromandel)