Fully Self-expressed
If I had one wish for the world, it would be for every person to have the safety and the courage to be fully self-expressed.
Self-expression requires people to feel safe and comfortable. For people to be comfortable to authentically share their true self with the world. To feel safe to share their thoughts, feelings, values, and identity, without reservation or inhibition.
I dream of a world where this is possible. Where diversity of thought and ideas are shared by people whose insides align with their actions. They know who they are and what they stand for.
I think that being ourselves is our job. Its why you are here. To express and experience yourself. Everything we do expresses who we are. How we show up, how we dress, and what we do, except when you are being someone else’s version of you. The version of you that you were rewarded for being. The version of you who met the expectations of those around you.
After several centuries on the planet, we often wake up to the fact that we are someone else’s version of ourselves.
For those of you who would love to get into the driver's seat of your own lives, I have good news! This Friday is a new moon. Not just any moon but a Leo new moon!
The new moon of Leo is a portal. It has the powerful energy of reclamation, empowerment, and transformation. As a Leo, I am crazy excited about this new moon.
It is an opportunity to choose ourselves. To face our fears of being seen, of being “too much”, of embodying our own power and creativity and still, choose ourselves. To stop dimming our light, to choose ourselves. Its a time to acknowledge the fear, the shame and the judgement that we have been carrying around. Little burdens of belief that were handed to us by others.
To be able to fully self-express, you need to know yourself. You need to know what you like, know what you love, know what lights you up. Know what you will and will not accept in your life. You need to know what you value and what you think is important.
The four tools that will help you understand and express yourself are:
Notice
Notice your reaction to things, to people, to circumstances.
Notice the things that wind you up, that you feel passionate about, or want to change. Notice what makes you angry? What frustrates you?Journal
Journal your experiences, your thoughts, and the answers to the questions that you have. I am constantly interviewing myself about all kinds of things. What did I think of a character in a TV show? What was my response to a media broadcast? How do I feel in certain circumstances, in certain spaces, with certain people?Speak
The third tool is your voice. Start speaking your truth. Say what you think and think about what you say. So often in conversations, we are simply going through the motions, unconsciously contributing to nothing, just filling in the space between ourselves and another. We have been taught that keeping the peace, not being offensive and being agreeable are all good things. And sometimes they are, except when you are doing it at the expense of yourself. Being able to sit with someone with whom you do not agree is a sign of deep personal development.Change
Allowing change. Often the people around us view our personal or professional growth as a bad thing because it might end up being bad for them. When we grow and change, others get concerned. It suits them if you stay small. It suits them if you stay the same. It means that their relationship with you is unlikely to change. People fear change. They fear the growth of others.
You have to be ok with change. To accept it and I think to seek it! The best visual I have for change are deciduous trees. I am quite obsessed with trees. I think they are incredibly wise and I love to learn from them.
Think about an autumn tree, full of beautiful deep orange, bold yellow and red leaves all gently letting go. They are letting go of their old selves. They do not do this with any aggression or trying. It just happens. It happens because they trust the process. They know the season that they are in. The leaves drop effortlessly. The tree trusts the process that new leaves will come.
By letting our old selves go, we become lighter. When our energy is light and authentic, we become more 'attractive'. We become energetically magnetic. People are drawn to us being who we are. Subconsciously when we are our true selves, we give other people permission to do the same.
None of it is as easy as it sounds. You have been made wrong for most of your life. You have had more messages from the world about what is wrong with you than what is right. Think back to a time when you have told someone about something you wanted, liked, or desired. You might have been told you cannot have that. This often comes in the form of "Who do you think you are?" or "What are you like?" which translates to "I don’t have the right to ask for what I want or need."
One of my favourite mantras is “What other people think of you is none of your business”. Being fully self-expressed is about putting your thoughts about yourself ahead of the thoughts of others.
Try adding a teaspoon of Leo energy into your cup this week. Be a little bit bold, a bit more vibrant and passionate. Be positive, stand up and speak your truth. Allow yourself to be expressed and admired! Sprinkle a bit of warmth and joy into the world.
