How amazing are you?
I was at a training day recently and the presenter was talking about how everyone in the room had something amazing about them. Something special - often something you are not even aware of. He asked us to turn to the person next to us and tell them ‘what was a amazing about you’.
I was sitting next to my friend Donna - she said ‘so what is amazing about you Lisa” to which I replied “Everything” - Donna nearly swallowed her tongue!
Imagine being audacious enough to say that everything about you was amazing. The thing was I completely believe it. I think I am amazing. I think all humans are amazing. The fact that our toenails grow everyday in itself is incredible. Somedays the fact that we keep on going when life seems so hard is amazing.
My life is pretty awesome. I have spent years carving and smoothing my life into the sculpture that I want to live in. I work with who I want, do what I want and live how I want.
And yet it is not always easy. I have days that are “AMAZING” and days that are ‘amazing’. If we work on the theory that everyday is ‘amazing’. The fact you are vertical, dressed, have left the house and are doing something to contribute to the betterment of your family or society (my definition of ‘work’) then you are winning. Now if you land a huge sale, get promoted, have a fun time with friends or get to witness your child doing something they love then that takes the day to next level - “AMAZING”.
On a physical level I learnt so much from a dear friend who had a stroke 3 years ago. Here was this incredible human I had come to know and love, now trapped in a body that would not work or do as it was told. Three weeks in a stroke ward will make you grateful. For three weeks I watched as he couldn't get a spoon to his mouth, how he had to lift his knees up with his arms to move them and how he had no idea if anyone was on his left side.
We are worn down to just how fabulous we are - we live in a deficit focus where we are constantly focused on our flaws rather than our perfections.
I got an email from one of my mentors recently that said - How amazing are you?! It was one of the nicest things anyone had said to me. It wasn't “well done on that speech”, it wasn’t “I think your book is great” - it was -“How amazing are you?”
Try saying that to someone. Say it to your kids. Tell people what you think is amazing about them. Not what they need to improve on….
Now some days life won’t feel very amazing. Same days being a human is hard. Lower the bar. When my children were very little my definition of an amazing day was when I had a shower and managed to boil some pasta. Different stages in life have different bits of amazing. The secret is to always look for the amazing bits, to focus on what is amazing about you, what is amazing in this world and what amazing stuff you are doing in this life.
So in case no one has told you lately - I think you are Amazing!