How did December get here so fast?! Crazy how fast this year has gone. This year has been a big one - for me there has been a lot of work, a lot of stretching myself into new shapes and a lot of stress. So much of the stress is stuff I have no control over - when people around you are unwell, behave badly or go through large life changes - all we can do is cope the best that we can.
The way I cope is by being very clear about what I can and cannot control. I live by this mantra taken from Reinhold Niebuhr’s Serenity Prayer:
“I accept the things I cannot change;
I have the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference”
Acceptance, courage & wisdom are pretty cool filters to live your life through! When I am busy or overwhelmed, I like to make lists. Lists of what I have to do , what I want to do and things that are important to me. I always make lists at the end of each year of who has made a difference in my life. And whose life I think I have touched in the past 12 months. That is what I believe we are on the planet for - to get & to give. Giving and getting often merge together when the thing we are giving gets us to a state of joy. I love to give. Giving people gifts is my love language. I do it because it brings me joy - finding the perfect something for the perfect someone is one of the greatest feelings I ever get.
So who is it that gives you joy? Who do you give joy to? In order to be the best and happiest person you can be it is vital to remove joyless people from your life. The people that are not contributing. The driftwood. The life lint. This people that take up space and contribute nothing!
I once sent an email out to my friends saying that their friendship contracts were under renewal and that I would be in touch in the New Year to let them know if they were successful for the next 12 months. While this was a joke - its a great idea. Who do you want to spend more time with in 2018? Who do you want more from? The New Year is a brilliant time to set set and re think how we are living our lives. Life is finite. You deserve the best. Merry Christmas.
“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It's your masterpiece after all.”