Make 2017 about what YOU love
Over the holidays I have spent a lot of time thinking. I have been thinking about what I love. Over the past 6 months a lot has changed for me - I have been through a big shift. This all started last year when I attended an event in Sydney where Darren Hill, a human behaviour scientist was speaking. He asked everyone in the room the question “What do you need to get rid of to become more of yourself?”
Like the story of Michelangelo who said when he created the famous state of David. "Every block of stone has a statue inside it”. What do you have to get rid of in order to become more of yourself? The stone that weighs you down and is stopping the true you from being seen.
I was stuck in an industry that no longer served me. A world that used to get me out of bed in the morning but was now failing to start my engine.
I started in the fashion industry at 21 years old. I loved it. By the age of 30 I was dressing women - one on one. I loved it. Pushing past their blocks made me happy. Seeing them in a new colour or neckline made me happy. But what really rocked my world was seeing these women become more of themselves. More confident, more gorgeous, more happy.
When the problem is a not liking your body - clothes are the perfect remedy. For the past 10 years I have been dishing out fashion perceptions to women and making so many of them happy.
My first book “Look Gorgeous Be Happy” was the bible for this. Encouraging women to embrace the body they had and to do a good job with ‘what their mumma gave them’.
I then realised that a huge percentage of the women who were seeking me out were incredibly unhappy and they thought that buying a new top was the answer. I know as well as any woman that a new something, some retail therapy, can be a mood lifter, but it is not a life changer.
To change your life, you have to have a good hard look at what the actual problem is, create some solutions and then have the courage to make some changes. Changing your top is not enough.
I now find myself more attracted to badly dressed women who like their lives than the perfectly put together ones I used to fill my days with.
Liking your body, yourself and your life is key to looking good. The key to feeling happy with who you are.
I live my life the way that I want to but still it can be better - I can DO even more, BE even more, BE MORE of myself. Just like the statue of David I needed to remove some rocks to discover my beautiful self - to become more of me.