Do what you want!
When was the last time you did exactly what you wanted? Not what you had to do or what you should do but what you wanted to do?
Doing what others want all day and everyday builds resentment. We have been taught that doing what ‘we want’ is wrong. That it is selfish and not ok.
How did December get here so fast?! Crazy how fast this year has gone. This year has been a big one - for me there has been a lot of work, a lot of stretching myself into new shapes and a lot of stress. So much of the stress is stuff I have no control over - when people around you are unwell, behave badly or go through large life changes - all we can do is cope the best that we can.
Your Life. Your Terms
Six years ago, I took my 8 year old daughter to the doctors concerned that she had lost weight, was incredibly grumpy and was eating and drinking a lot more than ever before. My doctor said she was probably just having a growth spurt and not to worry. As we walked out he said we could test her blood sugar levels you want. Tilly's blood sugars were 29.8. (A ‘normal’ persons blood sugars sit between 4 - 6). The nurse offered me a cup of tea and a hug - I still had no idea what this number meant and then the doctor suggested we call an ambulance! I had no idea what Type 1 diabetes was and asked the doctor how long this will last!
The Parenting Experiment
Twice a year I take groups of women to China - They are shopping trips and many people confuse them for a week of blatant consumerism for spoilt,wealthy women. Wrong. So wrong.
Are you plenty power?
In the past 18 years of being a parent I have finally worked out what parenting actually is - it's an experiment! Sometimes throughly researched, sometimes intuitive, sometimes flying by the seat of my arse, thinking on the spot, kind of experiment!
Keeping your love tank FULL
I have a wonderful friend called Rosie who I met a few weeks after she moved to NZ from Korea. Her English was very limited and we had hilarious conversations and a few games of charades to communicate when we first met.
Fit? or Fuck It?
I was recently speaking to a woman who was really concerned about her daughter - she had very low self esteem and the mother was really worried about the fact that she was not able to do the things she wanted to do.
Pregnant with Possibility
Its my birthday this week - and I have finally reached a cross roads. I have been teetering on the edge for a while but now a decision has to be made!
The cross road that I have reached is whether to make the enormous effort to get fit and trim or officially put myself into the “fuck it - don’t care - I’m just going to enjoy being fat” category.
How amazing are you?
I am addicted to Britain’s Got Talent and The Voice. I am not musical. I do not really know anything about whether someones voice is good or not.
This is your greatest gift - lead by example and be a happy mother!
I was at a training day recently and the presenter was talking about how everyone in the room had something amazing about them. Something special - often something you are not even aware of. He asked us to turn to the person next to us and tell them ‘what was a amazing about you’.
Contributing or Contaminating?
"You are the only person who can give your kid a happy Mother" - when I say this to groups of women, they become very quiet and sit very still. It's a hard quote to swallow for most mothers, as we are programmed from the time we conceive to put the needs of our child ahead of our own.
All about love - lots of love!
People are one of my biggest passions. Being a raving extrovert, the thought of being around lots of people, meeting new people and learning about what makes people tick fills many of my days. I believe that the quality of the people in your life has a huge effect on the quality of your life. Everyone who is in your life is either contributing or contaminating your world.
February has been all about love for me - lots of love.
I am BIG on love. I believe that the world will be a better place if we can all be more loving, love more often and act out of love rather than fear.
Make 2017 about what YOU love
I like to pride myself on being a reasonable human being. But not today. I spent most of today looking for someones head to rip off. I was ready. If anyone annoyed me or did not exceed my expectations, they were going to cop it.
Big Love Online
I have spent a lot of time thinking about what I love, and I have experienced a shift - I attended a speech in Sydney by a human behaviour scientist named Darren Hill 9 months ago where he asked the room the question - what do you have to get rid of in order to become more of yourself?
A magical week in Shanghai
Imagine liking yourself so much that you stopped sabotaging your life, your body and your relationships in an effort to constantly prove to yourself that you were right all a long and you really are, in fact, just not good enough.
Last Saturday 11 gorgeous women took a leap of faith and boarded a plane to Shanghai in China. I promised them shopping and fun and great food. We achieved all of that. We did a lot of shopping! We had a lot of fun, we ate incredible food. We stayed at the beautiful Langham Hotel in Xintiandi. The staff were attentive, the service was amazing and the toilet seats were heated!